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Rande and I have been social media friends for years! She has an amazing message to share about her journey to freedom and I can’t wait for you to read it!
1. I am so happy to have you on as a Freedom Friday guest! Give us a little background about yourself before we dive into the juiciness of freedom and how it applies to you and your life!
Absolutely, I’m so happy to be a part of this! As for my background As for my background, I’m an Eating Psychology and Mind/Body Wellness Coach and I mentor other women in finding freedom with food and in their bodies.
2. What does “freedom” mean to you?
Wow, wow, wow. “Freedom” is hands-down my biggest motivator and it always has been. Early on, I thought that “freedom” looked like being able to slip into size zero jeans, have flawless skin, and an effortless sort of beauty…but no matter how thin I got, I never felt free for very long before I wanted to be thinner or fell back into binge eating. I now see “freedom” as a total inside job. Freedom is liking myself. Freedom is listening to my body rather than a diet plan. Freedom is being in the moment rather than worrying about the past or fantasizing about the future. Freedom is being completely unaffected by others’ opinions.
3. Share about the time in your life when you lacked freedom. What was your struggle?
I have a long history of disordered eating, obsessive dieting, and holding myself back because I never felt like my body was good enough. Over the years, I thought that my biggest struggle was binge eating but eventually I learned that it was self-acceptance. I did everything from extreme low-carb diets to 90 day juice fasts in attempts to find peace and freedom but I only found it when I quit trying to “Cinderella-style” make my self over and just relaxed into everything that I already was and everything that I had to offer.
4. What was your turning point? When did you realize that you needed to embrace freedom?
I had many turning points and many realizations but the biggest shift was giving up dieting and trying to lose weight. And I don’t think I could have gotten there until I exhausted all my other options. I had done every extreme thing possible to “fix” myself but never stopped to just BE with myself. I feared that I was “giving up” or becoming complacent or lazy but it was stunning to see the change and transformation that’s possible from a place of self-loving rather than self-loathing.
5. How do you allow freedom into your life on a daily basis?
I’m always listening to my body which is never a stagnant process. It’s very alive and always changing. My favorite quote is “It takes discipline to be a free spirit”. Early on, I assumed that “freedom” was doing whatever I wanted whenever I wanted or eating whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. But that often left me feeling like I was just wandering around in circles and I crave excitement, challenge, and growth. Not only that, I believe that life asks us to grow and it becomes quite painful to ignore that. So while I don’t do “rules” I have very flexible rituals that leave me feeling free and connected with myself. Journaling, working out, yoga, meditation, and eating in a way that supports everything I want to be doing with my life are all incredibly important. I don’t do anything in the exact same way, at the exact same time, for the exact same amount of time every day, that wouldn’t feel like freedom to me. But I am consistent, just ’cause it feels so damn good.
6. I believe our journey towards freedom never truly ends, it just continues to progress to more and more freedom. How have you challenged yourself recently to embrace more freedom into your life?
My biggest challenge recently has been with my message as a coach and mentor. There are a lot of “intuitive eating” teachers that will say that you should just eat whatever you want whenever you want and while I do think that’s an incredibly important period to go through, we also need to listen to our bodies. It’s been very scary but very freeing for me to express my own truth: that the way we feed ourselves affects the way we feel in our bodies and affects our life experience. I don’t claim that the way I eat is the way everyone should eat but it is my goal to get others to a place where they trust their bodies and can consider themselves their own highest authority.
7. What is one golden nugget of wisdom you can provide to those who are currently struggling with embracing freedom today?
You can’t get to freedom on a path that doesn’t feel free. If you want a life that feels free, you have to let go of perfectionism and accept yourself as you are.
8. And before we say good bye, how can we stay connect with you over social media?