In January 2017, I launched a project called A Year of Self Love Project. If you’re new to this project, read here for more information.
In January, we covered the topic of mindfulness. If you are just joining us now, click here to read January’s post on mindfulness as mindfulness sets the base for your self-talk practice.
As we move through the A Year Of Self Love Project, we are now in the second month, February, and are going to cover the very important topic of self-talk.
To be honest, self-talk is my most favourite topic of them all, however, we couldn’t begin with self-talk because you first have to be mindful, which is what we covered in January.
Over the course of January, I hope you brought more mindfulness to your life and what goes on within your mind. It is likely you noticed a lot of chatter occurring throughout your mind on a consistent basis. This is normal, we all have this chatter, and it is important to be mindful of it – aware that it is taking place.
The reason mindfulness is so important is because it allows us to begin a positive self-talk practice. If we were not mindful of the chatter within our mind, we would simply listen to the noise, comments, and statements being given to us, and accept them for what they are.
“You look terrible today.”
“You are such a failure.”
“Why didn’t you try harder?”
The above examples might be thoughts you have throughout the day about yourself. Without mindfulness, you would listen to these thoughts and accept them. Mindfulness, fortunately, allows you to see them for what they are – thoughts.
In the month of February, we will now focus on self-talk. Self-talk is the practice of taking your mindfulness to the next level. It is the practice of being mindful of the thoughts occurring in your head and then speaking to yourself in a positive way.
Instead of listening and accepting the thought, “You look terrible today”, be mindful of this thought and speak to yourself as you would someone you love. Speak to yourself with love. One of the biggest factors getting in your way of loving yourself is how you speak to yourself.
I have so many clients wanting to love themselves so desperately, but when we examine the way in which they speak to themselves, it is obvious as to why they still struggle with self-love.
To put it bluntly, you will not be able to love yourself if your self-talk is negative, which is why self-talk is one of the first topics we are covering throughout our A Year Of Self Love Project.
In order to love yourself, you must speak to yourself with love.
Your Self-Talk Project:
1. Continue to be mindful of the thoughts you have throughout the day.
2. Instead of listening to those thoughts and accepting them, see them for what they truly are – just thoughts. That’s all they are! Isn’t that freeing!?
3. Now, when you speak to yourself, use a loving voice and loving words. Speak to yourself as you would a loved one.
This is going to take some practice and won’t come easy off the start, but I have helped many clients become their own masters of positive self-talk and I would love to do the same for you! That is one of my goals with this project. I want you to master positive self-talk!
1. Take a picture. Some ideas include: a picture of your new journal, a selfie with your new journal, a journal entry (if you’re feeling brave enough)
2. Post your picture to social media and use the hashtag #AYearOfSelfLoveProject and tag me: @MegTheRHN (I will be checking Instagram for your posts!)
3. If you are a blogger or have a website of your own – feel free to write a blog post on your experience throughout the month. Let me know by emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you publish a blog post to share with your audience, so I can share it with mine, too. I would love to hear from you.
I can’t wait to see your posts and pour my love on you! I am so proud of all of you who have decided to join in on this journey with women all around the world! Please comment below with thoughts, feelings, and anything else you would like to share with our beautiful community of self-love seekers! I would love to hear from you.